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Free-flowing willow
Like violin strings to a bow
The wind yields to you

(This poem won a Judge’s Choice Award with the Ontario Poetry Society – Ultra Short Poem Competition 2021)

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The Window

Your smile,

    Your laughter,

         Your goofiness

Memories on the wind elude my grasp

A hug,

    A wink,

         A hair-tousle

The promise of a life well-lived cut too short

Your strength,

    Your ambition,

          Your tenderness

Thoughts of you warm my heart; your father’s fills with pride

This longing for you threatens to consume me
     as I stare through the window for

 One more smile,

     One more hug,

         One more of everything

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Going Home

I just wanted to have fun
Hang out with anyone
Twist caps in the sun
Smoke and beer

But now I’m looking around
My buds are all settled down
I order another round
Nobody’s here

Guess I should have cared
My kids needed me there
Putting it all on her
A woman beyond compare

I’ve been calling this bar home
My wife and kids are gone
Making friends with coke and crown
Last call has come around
No one’s waiting on me now
Freedom’s what I found
I’ve been sitting all alone
And now it’s time to go

It’s closing in on a year
I know that it wasn’t fair
Now I’m ready to care
Has she moved on?

Standing there at the door
Not drinking anymore
Wondering what’s in store
She let’s me in

So glad that now I care
My kids need me here
Taking the load off of her
A woman beyond compare

I’m done calling this bar home
I’ve got somewhere else to roam
Making friends with a new crowd
Of myself I’m really proud
They’re all counting on me now
Family’s what I found
No more sitting all alone
I’m glad to be back home

(Co-written by Rodney and Katharine Griffiths, Copyright 2019)

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Brené Brown

She took her place.

Inspired by the natural world
   with the strength of the sycamore
    and the vulnerability of a lotus flower.

She now knew
    They are one and the same.

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black and white close up eyes face

Alone in the darkness
Drawn into gloom
In the quiet of night
She whispers “me too”

Only existing
An extension of him
Wanting her freedom
She curses his whim

Years of abuse, a
life mapped by bruises
Ignoring her struggle
He just makes excuses

Invisible scars
Reveal her story
And trigger the slap,
his hand from her knee

And yet he says, ‘She’s
a little bit crazy’
Or is it she’s finally
had enough, maybe?

Stories of sisters
Encourage her too
In the bright of day
She now shouts “Me Too”

No longer irrelevant
She finds her power
Blooming through thick mud
A lotus flower

A wave of voices
together as one
Rippling outward
Echoing the sun

One voice, then another
Many women vow,
supporting each other
Is he listening now?

And still he says, ‘She’s
a little bit crazy’
Or is it she’s finally
had enough, maybe?

He’s listening now
Does he really hear?
Will he ever understand
What it’s like being her?

And when he says, ‘She’s
a little bit crazy’
Will he finally know
She’s had enough, maybe?

And when he says, ‘She’s
a little bit crazy’
Will he finally know
She’s had enough, maybe?

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sparks of firecracker

Sparklers shimmer
in the night

The sizzle and crack
mesmerize all
Aliveness dances
in dynamic starbursts

Her face glows
iridescent against
the dark backdrop

The fire burns toward
its inevitable end
A pause,
another is lit

Sparklers shimmer
in the night

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Out Breath

green grass field and mountain

‘This may be the last time I see you.
I’m so glad you came.’
The trip was a whirlwind,
but of course we made it.

She was the same as I remembered,
a bit crass and a lot stubborn,
proud of the life she had made,
reminding us to focus on what matters.

‘Breathe the joys of life deep into your Self’
Family. Friends. Home.
‘Breathe out life’s expectations’
Title. Status. Money.

‘Does a fancy car or impressive title define you?
Are you what you have,
what you do?
Something else entirely, perhaps?’

The countryside, as we drove,
a pine tree blanket over lush hills,
exposed the river now and then,
signs of moose crossings dotted our path.

We never did see a moose,
but we did, for a brief time, get a window
into another world, one of simply living,
a reminder to focus on what matters.

We may not see her again.
She will be cherished, always reminding us,
‘Life is lived somewhere between
the in-breath and the out-breath.’

We’re so glad we went.

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The trouble with time

shallow focus of clear hourglass

Her hand in mine.
A tender smile graced my lips.
Her breath, laboured.
I wished for peace.

A lifetime of moments
cresting on a nation’s birthday.
A day of celebration
becomes an ending for one.

My mind flooded with memories
of dinners together and days in the sun.
My heart tight with grief
reminded of all I have left.

Time came, and it went.
Another year, another month, another day, another hour.
Time, in the end, can not be bargained.
And, there is never quite enough.

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What progressive looks like in gender equality

According to Stats Canada, women have outpaced men in university graduation since the 1990’s; this trend is projected to continue with more than 65% of university graduates currently women. Most fields, even in the 90’s, had more female than male graduates: health, law, social sciences, humanities, education, and business management. There are only three fields that still see fewer women than men graduate: math and computer science, architecture and engineering, and protective services; but less than 15% of all students graduate in these fields. Most of today’s leaders, even in the technology industry, come from a variety of educational backgrounds. There have been plenty of women in the pipeline since the early 90’s to identify, mentor, and promote into senior leadership and board positions.

So, what are the missing ingredients that have kept women out of the boardroom and executive ranks? Many will say it is confidence, acceptance, and support. Several organizations globally and locally are addressing this problem with young girls before they become university age; two such organizations are Technovation and ambiSHEous.

Technovation is a global technology entrepreneurship program that encourages young girls in middle school and high school to pursue technology and business fields. An annual challenge is run across more than 100 countries globally. Young girls work in teams to build a mobile app that solves a community problem, write a business plan that supports their idea, and pitch their start-up to a panel of judges. Professional women, who serve as impressive role models, mentor the girls as they work through the program. These amazing mentors often continue to support the girls throughout their future careers. Participating in Technovation Challenge gives young girls the increased confidence they need to pursue technology fields and to believe they can accomplish anything.

ambiSHEous is a local organization that was founded on the premise girls should be encouraged to lead early and should be, not only accepted, but honoured for their bold ambition. They combine entrepreneurship training, citizenship education, and leadership development to shape the ambitions of girls in a positive, world-changing way. Like Technovation, ambiSHEous knows that confidence is the result of skills, knowledge, and experience; which is why they focus on educating girls in financial literacy, entrepreneurship, civic engagement, and social change. They equip girls with the valuable skills, real-life know-how, and confidence they need to step forward and lead.

It is through global and local programs like Technovation and ambiSHEous that girls are developing the confidence they need to be future leaders. These types of programs are reminding young girls that it is perfectly acceptable to be bold and ambitious; and they are encouraging young girls to tackle tough world problems. As the pace of female university graduates continues to rise and as young girls acquire the much-needed confidence, acceptance, and support to be future leaders, it could very well be ‘Our Turn’.

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Boys will be boys. And the women who love them.

I loved being the only woman in a room full of men. I played golf (not very well), shot pool, beat everyone (really!) at poker, organized beer nights, pointed out attractive women, and studied up on NFL, MLB, PGA, and NHL. I wore being ‘one of the guys’ like a badge of honour, until I realized that I was sacrificing my natural gifts to fit into a mold that wasn’t designed for me as a woman. You rarely hear guys saying ‘Man, I’d love to be ‘one of the girls!’. In fact, what I have heard, is other men say they’ll revoke a guy’s man card if he acknowledges his femininity.

Let’s save the topic of men embracing their feminine side for another day so we can focus on the masculine attributes that make working with men completely and utterly fantastic!

  • Men regularly say what they mean: Organizational politics aside, you usually don’t have to guess what a man is thinking. Men are more naturally assertive than women. They are comfortable saying what they think, so if they have something to share, they will say it directly with little concern for feelings. The result: fewer hidden agendas and little gossip.
  • Men tend not to hold grudges: Men can have aggressive arguments involving name-calling and cursing, and still toast a beer with each other later the same day. Because they have less concern for feelings, they get over conflict more readily (which is not to say the conflict is resolved).
  • Most men are amazingly bold, bordering on brazen: I am regularly flabbergasted at how confident men are in the skills they have, what they can achieve, and how easily they convince others of their value. I wish there was a pill women could take to get a dose of that confidence which is why I was thrilled when the byline for International Women’s Day 2017 was ‘Be Bold for a Change’.
  • Many men are naturally protective: Evolution is to thank for men being natural protectors. They can be counted on to take care of people and resolve issues that threaten an organization. Their protective tendencies are what make them very loyal to their friends, colleagues, and companies.

Men are easy to work with because their agenda is simple: take heed of their advice, get over conflict quickly, help them make their bold ideas a reality, let them protect their turf and stay loyal to their friends. The sweet spot will be when we can harness the power of these masculine traits and couple them with the feminine gifts that come naturally to women.