I loved being the only woman in a room full of men. I played golf (not very well), shot pool, beat everyone (really!) at poker, organized beer nights, pointed out attractive women, and studied up on NFL, MLB, PGA, and NHL. I wore being ‘one of the guys’ like a badge of honour, until I realized that I was sacrificing my natural gifts to fit into a mold that wasn’t designed for me as a woman. You rarely hear guys saying ‘Man, I’d love to be ‘one of the girls!’. In fact, what I have heard, is other men say they’ll revoke a guy’s man card if he acknowledges his femininity.
Let’s save the topic of men embracing their feminine side for another day so we can focus on the masculine attributes that make working with men completely and utterly fantastic!
- Men regularly say what they mean: Organizational politics aside, you usually don’t have to guess what a man is thinking. Men are more naturally assertive than women. They are comfortable saying what they think, so if they have something to share, they will say it directly with little concern for feelings. The result: fewer hidden agendas and little gossip.
- Men tend not to hold grudges: Men can have aggressive arguments involving name-calling and cursing, and still toast a beer with each other later the same day. Because they have less concern for feelings, they get over conflict more readily (which is not to say the conflict is resolved).
- Most men are amazingly bold, bordering on brazen: I am regularly flabbergasted at how confident men are in the skills they have, what they can achieve, and how easily they convince others of their value. I wish there was a pill women could take to get a dose of that confidence which is why I was thrilled when the byline for International Women’s Day 2017 was ‘Be Bold for a Change’.
- Many men are naturally protective: Evolution is to thank for men being natural protectors. They can be counted on to take care of people and resolve issues that threaten an organization. Their protective tendencies are what make them very loyal to their friends, colleagues, and companies.
Men are easy to work with because their agenda is simple: take heed of their advice, get over conflict quickly, help them make their bold ideas a reality, let them protect their turf and stay loyal to their friends. The sweet spot will be when we can harness the power of these masculine traits and couple them with the feminine gifts that come naturally to women.